PM, first HUGS to you. I feel your frustration and pain.

DB is good but the problem is that after awhile as you and others have described it wears us out and our love begins to die along with all the DBing we have been doing.

That is why I am a believer in Plan A/Plan B from Surviving an Affair, which is a bit more agressive than Dbing.

Plan A is just like DBing but the difference is that you only do it for a certain amount of time (probably up to 6 months) and then you go "dark". I have posted a few things on YOYO sitch and I am going to put a Plan B letter up.

It is like the Last resort technique but with Plan B letter if WS wants to find his way home.

I will be praying for you. We are all in this together.

Me 53
H 50
D16, D29
M 22 years
bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H
8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also
bomb II - H moves 10/1
expose ow 10/22
D to be final 9-09