The family get together ? I also would like to know what words would make you feel better about our relationship if I was dropping the criminal charges . I don't want to come across as holier than thou but want to be the bigger person . Kind of use it to my advantage .
Those should be two different conversations. The family night should be an email. The fact you are dropping the charges should be a conversation. I guess I'm nutz, but my line of work, I've learned to not put anything in writing that could come back and bite you in the A$$. And there's not one reason to not be careful here. Write out what you want to say and go from there, but don't let her have a record of it.....just in case. Call her and say: Thanks for taking my call. (If she doesn't answer leave a message--Please call me when you have a free private moment. I want to talk about the charges....and possibly dropping them.) I wanted to talk to you about the charges. Basically, I'm going to be dropping them and wanted you to know. I don't know if you'll be notified or how that works, but in case you are not, I wanted to make sure you knew. Take care. And hang up.
She believes she has moved on and you have not. What do you think it means? The way I see it, for your wife the marriage is over. She has not doubts at this point. So you have to start changing her mind. Give her doubts, make her wonder if you really are the one, make her wonder if she is doing the wrong thing for the kids, make her wonder and make her doubt she's doing the right thing and keep at it. It all starts with more time together....family night.
