I spoke with my L again today. She finally heard from Hs L on Friday and now it seems it is H himself who is holding things up with giving most recent financial info. Ugh when the hell will this ever end?
I mentioned to her having some sort of written 'contract' between H and I if D13 does go live with him (even partially) and she basically told me that in English law there is no such thing. I'm beginning to realise that English law is very much against those who a) uphold the law and b) have decent morals.
Yesterday D18 phoned to say H had even tried to involve her in his latest scheme. She said he had rung and said that if he sold his flat, rented somewhere bigger would she like to spend time with him when she was home. She told him no b/c when she is home she spends most of it not here but at her BFs mum's house. Apparently he sounded very upset. After he hung up she said she texted him and told him to stop playing games and trying to get her and D13 to do his dirty work for him. She said he tried to ring her back but her battery went flat on her phone. Maybe just as well. She told me she wants nothing to do with him until he 'sorts his godamn self out!'
After speaking to my L today I decided I would play H at his own game. I rang S16 and asked if he too would like to spend half his time with me. He said he hadn't thought about it recently but would give it some serious consideration.
On the issue of discipline. The main problem I am having is getting D13 to sit down in the same room as me to even talk about it let alone argue (which obviously I don't want). All last week H made sure he kept at his house long enough to prevent me from taking any action. This may sound weak, gutless an excuse (however you want to label it) but I feel quite literally powerless. I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
