Never say Never; it's worth the fight!

[Treese]

Everyone.

I need your advice again....I know why my H has been so distant lately....Apparently my D16 has been texting H and basically telling him what she thought...so not good I guess....she came to me today and asked if I've talked to H and I told her just a text about her grandfather....then she told me...H had not returned her text...she keeps saying he tells her people change...it's just what happens....she wants him to tell her what we did to him to make him leave....she is not going to get that answer and I told her that...I said dad is a different person now, not the person he once was....she wants him to say he was wrong that he made a mistake....I told her he did tell us he made a mistake, and she said, "then why is he still doing it"..that her sister got to do everything with him and her brother still gets to, and that she doesnt...I told her she can if she wants, but she says she doesnt want to...she feels weird around him now...she doesnt even feel like she has a dad...I started to cry...I told her I will never keep her from her father, i just cannot accept the OW...and I'm sorry I cant..

She left feeling bad and I feel bad...I told her the past is over, I cannot change the past...it's here we have to deal with what we have...

I told her if we didn't have dad, I wouldn't have them...
that, yes, sometimes I still miss her dad but he is different now..and that I do still love him...its going to take time...that dad is taking care of us by giving me all of his money to take care of them...

I wish my children didnt have to go through this, I wish the world was different but I'm making it....one day at a time...

Do you think that's why he hasn't been in contact or even taken son for the evening?