A New Decade

[Sanderika]

Hi there MsM,

My knee jerk reaction would be to rescue him.

My common sense would tell me not to.

I think it depends on the message you want to send him.

Do you want H to think you will always be there to bail him out?

Do you even want H to come to you and ask for your help when funds are low?

Do you want to cut off all ties other than a casual friendship at this point?

Will H think there is a chance you still have loving feelings for him beyond just caring and want more by helping his finances?

Would H be grateful and humble for the help?

Would H be selfish and ungrateful?

If you were in the same boat, would H help you?

Just some questions to ponder, you and others can probably think of a few more.

I think with the pending D, I would not help him. In my sitch, I do not share with H how much I have, separate from our joint accounts. I think it important with a pending D to keep a certain amount of secrecy. By lending H money, he would draw the conclusion you have ample to spare.

Don't know if this helps, I was lurking about and thought I drop in....

Sanderika