Put it this way, if I "can't" remember how I was when we met/prior to getting M, I was not working on keeping our M. That's shocking to me. I truly can't tell you how I was different. I'm truly silenced
well..so you're saying you lost yourself?? you lost who you were?? You can't remember what attracted him to you or you to him...
that is rather shocking..14 yrs is not a long period of time..
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He does not say we are separated, and, as far as I know, has only mentioned being unhappy once (to a mutual friend of ours) and it wasn't taken seriously because he has had a history of "blowing up" (not nearly as bad as it sounds) and saying something dumb, and then moving on like nothing happened.
LOL..classic DAM..he does not know the language..
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I didn't take your advice, yet,
that will be taken as pressure
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I got this hilarious email Subject: Growing Older--Oh Dear! In it are cartoons (mostly cute sexual in nature), and I forwarded it to him, with my own captions next to them. My captions were memories we share of experiences (sexually) that I know he finds either amusing, endearing, or just plain good. All were appropriate to the cartoon, and funny, light, etc... At the beginning of the email it says... Something to look forward to.... I added, "God, I hope so! We were once very fun (intimately). I miss it. Let's work on that!
I know he got it last night. There was no response. There probably wouldn't be, as he's a bit on the shy side. He acted perfectly normal, and was really good, engaging, etc... all day.[/quote]
all that is well and good...it could be that he sees that as pressure..it could be that he is on the fence and that pushed him away..ya never know
[quote]We'll see.
and yes....we will
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SMW suggested the audio series, Light His Fire. I ordered it.
It may be good that you know the Martian language and that you understand how this DAM does not know the Venusian language..so Men are from Mars/Women are from Venus may be in order...because really he has no clue...
It also may be good if you read The 5 Love Languages and see if you can figure out just what his is...and what yours may be....
in all honesty..no fires will be lit...until you figure out those things...
