I didn't say let it out, I said admit it. See this I fear is the flip side of trying to change some of that stuff. You said you were pissed, but then you "decided" not to be, because you're somehow not allowed to be mad about anything now.
I get mad at plenty of things...what I try to do when it comes to my wife and instances like this, is ask myself if there is really any reason I should be upset about it...upset with HER..or am I just targeting her.
Did she do something that should have caused me to be angry with her? No.
In the past, would I have taken it personally..as though she did it just to piss me off..and had been rude..AND targeted her with my anger? Yes.
My wife still sees me angry and pissed off at a myriad of things at times....what I have come to realize over these past months is it is a rare occasion that she does anything that warrants me being angry with her specifically.
Actually, part of that conversation that night was me telling her that I DO, at times have to stop and think about what I am doing and how my words and actions affect those around me.
I used to shoot first...and never ask any questions..LOL, and I am learning to control that...not hide it or transfer into digs and sarcasm.
I believe she has been the target of blatant anger, digs and sarcasm that were specifically directed at her enough over the years that she has come to realize the difference.
....and when I say the conversation...the sarcasm..was light..I honestly think it was. I think she wanted reassurance that I wasn't mad because of past experience AND her feelings that it just wasn't proper for her husband to come home and find her and her friend alone in the house with four dudes.
Forgetting all past experiences for a minute, and remembering that she told me we had become best friends over this past year...I think she wanted to make sure her best friend wasn't pissed and that she hadn't done something to offend him....or making sure that he didn't think she was showing interest in some one else.
