For someone that has been in this situation for a short time, you sure seem to be doing everything right. There are good days and bad days and it seems like you are well grounded.
I know for me, whenever I took control of some aspect of the financials (ie shared accounts) or the legal issues, it gave me strength. You are best in getting some legal advice now. I was lucky as my cousin had recommended a great attorney for me. You might ask friends and associates. Walk away from the sharts that start talking about nailing her financially.
