Hi kassie, I just wanted you to know I was thinking about you. I haven't read every bit yet, but I am trying to get caught up.
I did find that interesting that your H thought there was something wrong with "your nature" because you don't think you should pick up his ball when he drops it. Your nature isn't the problem, lol.
I'm going to guess that he was raised with that idea...that other people are supposed to pick up the pieces.