Well, on the sex thing--it has been----hmmmmmmm 14 months and counting for me. Man are my fingers crossed for homecoming!
I do not know what to tell you on the trust issue, as I am not even close to being there yet--at least not from what I can see. However, I have given all of it over to God and i have faith that He will walk me through that landmine, as well, when the time comes. I need to re-read your sitch. Is your H totally transparent? does he let you look at his cellphone unguarded? What about his emails? I realize that that is only a snapshot of his life, but it is something.
I do know, though, at some point, you have to let go of the past in order to move forward. It is the only way you can completely heal. I have been dealing with this in a study at church. Being able to bring up crap from the past--family issues, relationship issues, the OW--and letting them go with forgiveness has really helped me mentally over the past month. Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself--it is not hokey, it is fact.
Also, have you read Love and Respect? IT definitely has helped me understand some of the dynamics issues in my marriage over the years.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
