Hello All, I've made the move here because I no longer believe my H is just an MLCer. He does have some traits of an MLCer, but not exclusively, as I've learned here. My original thread....http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1727405&page=0&fpart=1 But here is where I'm at: H is now back in our house. I'm living with a amazing friends with our S. My H is also very good friends with the couple I am staying with. (They are empty nesters who would love to have a grandchild but are convinced probably not going to happen, so they really love my S.) H has been acting GREAT. He's always around, it's unusual if we don't have dinner together. He is with me during his weekend with H and his nights too. But the bigger deal is that he's with me when it's MY weekend with our H and my nights. I have been doing great with the GALing. Tennis, yoga, friends, reading, exercising....etc. But H's other actions and what he says are confusing. He won't call me during the work day. He might text me, but rarely calls. I am the one who organizes the bills and money, so when I contact him during the work day it's house or S related. Alright, I can deal with that. He is VERY flirty right now. I spent this past weekend staying at home with him and S. It was nice and any fly on the wall would think we were a normal, HAPPY family. On Sunday, we're on our way to brunch and he looks at the side of the road at some condos and says "How much do you think those are?" I said "They're pretty old and run down, but it's a great location.....not sure." He said "I bet around $150,000 or so. I think I could live there. There small looking, but it'd be big enough for 1.5 people." I said "So it's be perfect for you and S, but not me too.....You don't have to say crap like that. Just let it be." Later on I should not have done it, I know, but I was peeved and asked "Do you want a divorce?" His answer was "Please, let's not do this now." I reminded him he started it which is actually debatable I guess, but I asked him again. He said nothing. I asked again and he said he was pretty sure yes, he does want a divorce. I asked him "If you could file tomorrow, would you?" Nothing. We are in a situation where we cannot divorce even if we both wanted it because of the economy and our debt. I asked him again. "If you could file tomorrow, would you?" He said "I don't know." I said "Ok, let's have another great day. This conversation is over." He looked shocked and didn't believe me. But we went on to have an amazing Sunday. At the end of the day, when he was leaving after having dinner with us (AGAIN) he gave me a big hug, a kiss on the forehead adn asked "Are you ok?" I said yes and are you ok? He said yes. Gave me an eskimo kiss and left. I called to make sure he got home, he had a few and he thanked me for checking on him.
Now all of that is ok and I know where I went wrong and such. But any advice on how to improve, please, lay it one me.
Another twist in my life here: I have been interviewing. On Friday I was offered a new job with a more than 10% raise. This new job would require a lot more of my time which H says is fine, he'll help pick up S more. H is very interested in this new job and any counter offers I may get from current employer. I'm worried, he's been around so much and nice because he wants me to pay off our debt with my new raise. I wish I didn't have these thoughts, but I do. Advice? Anyone else been here?
