To be clear, I did NOT let him spend the weekend at the house. I told him I was uncomforatable with him being here and I think that's what prompted the phone call and voice message.

Still working on the email to send back in response to his letter. I do have a question on Gucci's draft on which I hope to get some feedback.

Originally Posted By: gucci loafer
Suddenly MR. Honest and Mr. Communicator huh? You tried and tried to get him to communicate and be honest, and once you quit trying to communicate and to have honesty, he suddenly wants it...You will need to say to him in your response to him that "he is trying to be someone they aren't" (that comment always works wonders) and "you are only doing this to get me back and things will then go back to the same old ways we had"...


I'm not 100% comfortable with the first sentiment because I told him a couple months ago that I was not happy with who I had become and was making changes in my life to become the best possible Pearl. If I don't accept his statement about wanting to be a better communicator doesn't that just negate my statement about becoming a better person?

Going for my hour walk so I'll mull it over a bit.

Originally Posted By: gucci loafer
Can you imagine if you were still hanging in there and hoping that by being nice and sweet to him would turn him around and where you would be?


If there are any lurkers here who don't know my whole story, I was trying the whole "be friend-ly and ride it out" approach to the A but it was tearing me up inside because I felt like I was destroying my own self-respect. Suddenly a switch flipped and I knew I couldn't take it for one more minute. I can't tell you how much better I felt about myself for taking a stand and taking responsibility for my own happiness. Kicking him out may not have been strict DB practice, but it certainly follows the idea of realizing you can only control your own actions.

So that's a really long winded way of saying no, I can't imagine still doing that!


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