Walk Away German Wife (WAGW)

[PortlandDad]

Hi KK,

I've come to this same conclusion. I believe she is already in the remorse stage, at least that is what it sounds like to me. She is definitely burning her bridges with her family and friends in Germany. According to both her and her mom, with the exception of taking her dog for a walk, she spends the entire day in her apartment.

I also found out that she took her aptitude test for the nursing school she wanted to attend and completely bombed it. She now has to wait 3 months to even attempt to take it again. She is not stupid by any stretch of the imagination, but this is a woman that failed her drivers license test 3 times in a row, despite intense study of the manual and online practice testing.

Her options, just like her illusion of a perfect life away from us, are evaporating. She still talks tough, though: still says that it's my fault for everything, still says what she is doing is right, yadda yadda. I recognize her bravado for the desperation that it really is and I don't get discouraged when she starts talking like that.

I'm kinda partial to a Dodge Caravan, but that is only because we had one years ago and I liked how roomy it was and how well it handled. Another added benefit of getting a mini-van is that my S17 who is working on his driver's license right now will be able to drive it (so safety is a big concern) and run errands for me and such.

Even though it matters very little right now, my W also complained the last time she called that she doesn't feel "safe" driving her little Fiesta, having been used to driving her expedition. I suppose I would let her drive the minivan when she comes back; that would make her feel safer on the road