You know Saffie, I have to look at this through others eyes. If this was a man doing this to one of my friends or heaven forbid one of my daughters I would think he was the scum of the earth. Honestly, I am ashamed that I have put up with it for so long. Therefore, I share very little with my nonvirtual friends. I know they would think I was crazy. I know I would and probably not want to have much to do with a person who has allowed a man to walk all over her like he has me.
As a matter of fact when we had our blowout in front of the OW I told him I prayed that our daughters never met a man like him. This did seem to play on his conscience some because that is when he hung is his head and apologized.
I want to apologize to all of my virtual friends on here for the spineless behavior I have exhibited. I also want to thank you all for giving me 2x4's and not shunning me. You all truly have been my lifeline.
I know overall that I have nothing to be ashamed of except being a doormat. I tried to hold my family together. He is the one who should be ashamed of himself, but I have a feeling there is no shame on his part
OK, you are thinking clearly now.
There is nothing to be scared of.
1. You will do better financially if you go after him and divorce.
2. You will, most likely, meet someone else who is very nice. I think you are a real catch, Yoyo. If you don't, it's better to be single than to be a "Yoyo" wife, or living with a man who is a tyrant.
3. You are saving your daughters. You are showing them what NOT to accept in a relationship. They will respect you more, and in turn, you will respect yourself.
