(((((Ali))))) She was joking about the furniture.... though it isn't an awful idea!
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Wow, I hope you remarry for passion and craziness and wild abandon and happily snuggle with one another on nothing but a pile of cushions, with a cardboard box for a table
Got any boxes?
Things have slowed down around here, with the old gang... and not a lot of "success" in the classic sense. Though I think we are all getting better in ways we might not have expected.
Grrrrrrr! The lawyer I had a call into doesn't have an appointment until the 20th, and I need it way sooner than that. I need to get some kind of document that states that the proceeds from this refi are going to W as part of a settlement, and not to me.
Hey Jeff, Hope you got the good news? Just dropping by the say hi.. I wonder at what time and day I will finally stop posting to this board !!??? Hmm... I feel like a dinosaur, as Kalni says! I noticed you were posting to Newcomers, good for you Jeff.. you really helped me so much from the start. I wish I could, but I just dont seem to have the heart to post to them.. suppose I feel quite guilty about that !
Al x
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
I feel like a first generation dinosaur here... I remember Forrest saying, that he was sure I would become one... I cant post to Newcomers either. I've tried a couple of times and I have been following Veronica and a couple of others but that's about it... I dont even feel like posting on my thread either. Let us know what is happening, xxx M
I'm with you K. I can't seem to post to my own thread anymore let alone be helpful to anyone else.
Jeff, you are such a kind, giving soul. I know you will come out the other end of this with a great outlook and hope for the future to be brighter. I'm quite proud to call you friend.
I don't see any of us as failures, our M's may have failed, but we are stronger in ourselves now.
Blessings to you buddy! Update us on what is going on. Did you find another L?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
The document I put together made the first person that saw it happy. Hopefully the trend will continue!
As far as what is happening.... I think W has decided on a house. I think she is considering two, but when she talks about them, one seems like the clear "winner". I don't think she can take too much action until my refinance is complete, so that she has the cash to back up her offer, but she might be able to put together some kind of contengent offer to get the bargaining started. She has been trying to figure out what furniture and appliances she wants to take, and what she wants to leave. She's been measuring, sketching, and thinking. She is worried about money (there's a surprise!), since she will have to "fill" an empty house. We will figure it out. It may be that we need to push the D as quickly as we can, since she might qualify for the substantial "first time homebuyer" tax credit if we are D'd. I think the only tricky thing we have to deal with is retirement plans. So, there is some work to be done there.
I'm not going anywhere for a while! I like hanging out with dinosaurs!
It looks like W has decided to make an offer on choice #2. It turns out that the bank that owns choice number one has a habit of not even responding to offers for two or three weeks, and seems to be interested only in full price offers. And it seems that the "advertised" square footage is wrong, besides. So, she is going to offer on choice 2, which will need a bit more TLC (carpets and paint) before they can move in, but still sound pretty good. And is a fair bit less expensive, and larger.
Anyway, after deciding to do this, she got into the car, and broke into tears (according to her.) I don't think it is a D thing, really. She has never lived on her own like this, and the thought of buying the house stresses her quite a bit. Everytime we've bought a house, it was pretty upsetting to her, so I'm not surprised. What she even admitted was weird is that her reaction was to call me. She said she even thought about it, and said, we are getting D's, and I am calling to cry on his shoulder. She said she was protecting her parents. I don't think she wants them to see her like that. They would try to fix it. I more of less just listened. And told her that she was always stressed when we bought a house.
Interesting indeed, and it shows she did/does appreciate you in her own way. I'm almost tempted to suggest responding to the tears/stress in a 180 way, not by not listening, but maybe offering support and sympathy (like a girl would!). But I feel silly saying it, so instead will say that this weekend I bought 3 pairs of new socks and couldn't stop smiling as I was choosing them because socks always now remind me of you.
Well, I didn't try to "fix" anything for her. And didn't offer to help in any way. The only thing I did tell her was that since it needed work before she would move in that I wasn't going to push her out of the house. (Unless you are coming to visit! ) And I said that I didn't hate her guts. Was that a mistake?
) And I said that I didn't hate her guts. Was that a mistake?