Hey K, I never bought into the "OW or OM is a symptom". I can accept that things were not going well but ultimatelly, it is a decision to drop your pants. It is a decision made by someone who is weak ... in my opinion. Now, if your marriage is done....then I am not saying to wait for the divorce to be finalized either. I guess it takes time to recover. Like you, I am healed but have not totally recovered. That is a good way to put it.
"I will state my needs again. If he says he cant, then...it's done. If he says he will, then I will start over again, this time, do the work." What I am reading from this K, is that you basically want him to decide......you are going to put your requests on the table and it is up to him to say..Ok., I am in or no, I am out.
"And I cant heal myself when I feel he still disrespects me." I guess that will be one of your "requests". Can you clarify how he disrespects you K?
