Over the Shock - Detaching and GALing

[Thinker]

Thanks.

The biggest challenge that I have is when she gets angry like that about something I have done or am planning to do, I get defensive and fight back rather than trying to listen. For instance, yesterday my W was upset that a) she had been inside sick for almost 2 days during the only nice weather we had and b) she was feeling alone and distant and wanted some attention from the kids.

I understand that and why she would feel that way, but since she started the discussion as an attack on me (ie "You being so selfish!") that I immediately get defensive and fight back. (ie "I am not!").

Anyway, I'm not really worrying about it - just analyzing it as a way of learning.