I think that a reasonable deadline for me is July. That would be 8 months since separation. If my W still can't (aka "doesn't want to") work on our M, then it'll be time for me to file. In the meantime I will stay dark and keep building myself and my life up, and when she does contact me I'll be on my best DB behavior.

So that's my deadline. July. Why not make it the 4th of July. If things don't work out, I can celebrate my independence from all this nonsense.

Since we live in one of the few states with no true no-fault divorce option, I'm the one who will have to decide when this M legally ends. At first that bothered me, but it does give me a sense of control. If I want out, I can get it. If I don't want out, I can delay. I'm guessing that drives her crazy, but she created this mess when she had an A.

And I have been praying, asking God to give me the strength, patience, and compassion to do the right thing. No matter what, I will emerge from this with my head held high.

Me: 33
WAW/MLC: 33
M: 4+, T: 10+
Separated: Nov 08
A#1: Oct 08 - Jan 09 (exposed and ended)
A#2: Feb 09 - ?
1: http://tinyurl.com/mrmistakes
2: http://tinyurl.com/ckch9t
3: http://tinyurl.com/stillwaters3