LoveNoMatterWhat's New Thread

[FaithfulH]

Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.
Kahlil Gibran

LNMW,

Wow...cards, family pics, family dinners, buying a house together! I hope you also see that the "incident" of last weekend didn't throw the train off the tracks. If it hasn't already, it will become clear that this is a NEW relationship where the old behaviors are gone. Even your "incidents" will be different because you have learned what the lack of respect will bring you. In fact, there will come a time where you realize that your W wants to know YOUR needs even when they conflict with hers. Just keep working on how you share that without it creating conflict. And, I still think it is too early to initiate those discussions....only when asked. Even then, don't fall into the trap of unloading pent up stuff.....only VERY small doses of your needs.

Regarding the new house idea, I would even consider telling her..."I'm not comfortable buying a house together until you've made the long-term commitment to us as a family....but, that just means we'll wait until you are."

Before I forget, if you haven't done it already, please read Love and Respect by Dr. Eggerich....it is awesome and I think it will be timely given your current state. The quote at the top of my post came from an interesting article in the March issue of Men's Health titled "The Science of Heartbreak". The intro says, "As mysterious as love may be, the agony of its loss is an even more baffling experience, driving many men to depths of despair they never knew existed. Now, however, researchers have begun to see through our haze of pain, and understand that there's actually a method to our sadness." Great article if you can get ahold of it!

Glad to hear your new job is going well! I start my new job in Dallas this morning. My wife said to me yesterday before I left...."FaithfulH, this really feels right. This move is going to be different than any we've ever had (we've moved 9 times in 29 years). I feel really good about this!"

Praise God for our marriage restorations!