Being in a good place, being healthy helps you make good decisions.
Never talk, argue or try to make sense of things with a drunk person...
Never talk, argue or try to make sense of things when you are drunk.
When my spouse left, I was devastated but fully believed it was his misery in our marriage for leaving. I stayed out of snooping, avoided any gossiping until a rumor caught up to me.. that a man who fit his description had left his wife to move in with his girlfriend in a specific town.
As bad as him leaving felt.. multiply that by shattered glass, searing heat and being shredded by clinging vines. It changed everything.. and the hurt was phenomenal.
And I kept going back to it.. doing one more search, figuring out her name without ever asking anyone anything. Whatever satisfaction I gained by gaining tidbits was washed away by a greater misery.
For me.. snooping was masochistic.. hurt bunches and didn't help at all.
*hugs*
PS.. Letting go goes a long way toward acceptance.
