Hi guys, I spent almost the entire time the kids were gone yesterday, reading "just friends" again. It is a good book and reading it again reminded me I am not crazy to want some kind of clarity and honesty. SO, I will insist I want the truth, I can wait for a while, but until then he would have to stop contacting her. Unfortunately the C will be against this and I dont know how he would accept it.
I am mad at the C. She said a lot of things that are really bad. Like "you gave 90% at the relationship, your self esteem was low and that's what allowed the affair" I was like WTF? She insisted the OW is MY problem and get it over with. No discusion about trust, honestly, etc etc.
I have recovered, as the book says, but I am not healed. And I cant heal myself when I feel he still disrespects me.
I will state my needs again. If he says he cant, then...it's done. If he says he will, then I will start over again, this time, do the work. K
