Spring is (almost) here

[istherehope]

Hi Jen and Ali,

Thanks for checking in on me :).

I do still read some of the threads these days, but I feel like I can't get involved in any new ones. That's where things become most painful. I hope someday that I will feel so strong and secure in the M that I can offer advice to people going through what I went through, but not there yet...

Jen-it's always so nice to hear from you. I know that you too decided to take a break from the boards, so it is very kind that you still keep an eye on me :). I always remember your sitch and your timelines when I start to get impatient. I know that our H's are/were very similar. We are on about 9 months now since the bomb, but according to H he was unhappy for about a year before he dropped it, so if this is true and not spew, then we're at nearly 2 years. I can anticipate it taking another year before I feel completely secure again, unless something very symbolic and meaningful happens in the meantime and changes my attitude. I definitely will reach out in "real life" if anything comes up-thanks!

Ali-I posted on your thread this morning. I probably won't be posting during the next 2 weeks at all though, as I will be in Brazil. Of course if something amazing happens there, I will post right away. You are right that he isn't wearing his ring yet, which does really bother me, but I remember Jen saying how long it took for her H to wear his ring. Maybe this is like the last step in the process. Speaking of Saturn and Virgo, my H is a Virgo, so perhaps he is feeling this more than most? For what it's worth too, Saturn is retrograde in my natal chart, not sure how this plays into anything. Tomorrow is actually our 5 year anniversary, and I know H knows this, as when we were in the US last, we visited this jewelry store (to look at watches), and we filled out a form where it asked for all of these details, including wedding anniversary. I am not going to say a word, and I don't anticipate that he will either. Actually he never has been one for saying anything, but this is particularly symbolic to me, and I was hoping that he would put his ring on for this, but not expecting this anymore. So hard work lifting in just over 2 months...sounds about right in my H's school sitch. In fact things are starting to get a lot better for us as a couple, in terms of finances and such. Just over the last month we have made some changes in our budget that have left us feeling like we don't really have money problems at all anymore, whereas previously we were definitely living paycheck to paycheck. So in some ways seems like whatever is going on now is working well in some parts of our life anyway...oh in terms of clearing cookies etc., I do have my own laptop, but I have 3 browsers. One of them doesn't remember browsing history ever, and that is the one I use for visiting the boards.

OK well I am off to work now, very busy day ahead of me before the big trip.

Thanks again for your support!
ITH