Hiya Ali!! Thanks for the compliment!. I do think I acted rather cool. I guess my actions were business like (like our role model Julia), yet I was friendly & joking. Dare I even say that we might have had fun doing D papers I know that sounds very strange. Maybe it has to do with working toward a common goal, and we are no longer struggling against each other. I even joked that if there would have been this much paperwork to get married, that we never would have. At one point he picked up the knife on the table & asked what kind of knife it was. I said it's a bosom knife & he made the motion that he was putting it in my bosom. Dork! I also cooked us breakfast like old times & later we had a martini.
Yes, it did take a long time for him to realize that his friends were a bunch of losers. He was betting that being their friends would also advance his position at work (since it's the owners family). Last time we met, I told him that family only cared about themselves. Today, I did no lecturing. Mark that as another thing I did wrong in the past. I had plenty of chances when he talked about his friends, his mom & family. He even told me that he no longer talks to S (whom I suspected was the OW). Guess, he can't stand her now.
Strangely enough, one email I got from him in Malaysia, he said he couldn't wait to get back to the US. Now, he would like to go back. You see over there, we was treated like a boss & important. He didn't have any responsibilities other than going to work. He gets back & here at his job he's basically talked down to & unappreciated. Also he has to deal with life's problems. It was surprising to hear him admit that he knew going back to Malaysia would just be escaping from reality. This is a man who has spent his life doing so (or at least the past 2 years).
My H looked better this time. He had his haired dyed brown instead of his natural gray. He said he was stupid to listen to his hairdresser & go his natural color (which is now gray). I didn't say anything, even though I thought it was a stupid idea when he first told me 3 months ago. Ah, maybe his hairdresser was on my side Do I still fancy him?? When I think about that, strangely enough I just want to push it out of my head and not think of it. I still do love him, enjoy spending time with him and we have many similar interests. Does that answer your question? Could I ever really open the vault to my heart again to him ...... that is not something I even want to ponder about at this point.
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
I know that sounds very strange. Maybe it has to do with working toward a common goal, and we are no longer struggling against each other. I even joked that if there would have been this much paperwork to get married, that we never would have. At one point he picked up the knife on the table & asked what kind of knife it was. I said it's a bosom knife & he made the motion that he was putting it in my bosom. Dork! I also cooked us breakfast like old times & later we had a martini.
