IMO, its best that your H is getting most of his support from his AA crowd right now. You can support but from a distance. That way if he does relapse again (I hope not) you will not be anywhere close to blame or get hurt again.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!