Standing on the Edge

[MsMelancoly]

Hi native, Good to see that you are still posting. I am still reading along and am here to offer support. I understand that this must be extremely difficult for you especially when you have your D to think about as well.

I don't really know what to say about your W. Only that especially with the WAS, the last thing they want to deal with is reality. And some people just don't deal with reality well anyway. Your W seems to have a lot of anger as well. She cannot be angry at herself and you are unfortunately the closest one to her, so she feels it's ok to spew her anger at you. Try to remember that and that she has not come to terms with the reality of the choices she has made. Until the anger subsides from both sides you cannot move forward - not in M anyway. I think you see this, you have gotten her pattern down very well.

How is detaching going?? There's a detaching poem on here, that really helped me focus & let go. Sorry to say, but for me, agreeing to divorce my H, has been a huge weight lifted off of me. To finally realize that the struggle, the one sided struggle is over. But for me, I have far less invested in my M. Yet, in the end you have to do what is best for you & your D. You cannot control, save, protect or fix your W.

Keep working on you, that is the key!