I think that you are on track with the reading....but a time to take a break...somewhere between books...or you'll go on information overload and spin out of control.
Take time to process what you read.
DB/DR has some great principles. Sadly, by the time many of us find ourselves here, we are in deep doo doo. IMO, the people who arrive here have the worst case scenarios. Yeah...some will be in the milder cases and have a shot.
What gets difficult tho' is that many will propagate the 'this-will-be-over-in-3-5-years' theory and many will get dragged along needlessly as they are emotionally abused...being told about 'babysteps....that reconciliation is around the corner.
Denial.
The key here is that if one TRULY chooses to stand, then you have to say goodbye in your mind and fully go on with one's life while your WAS continues to do what they do. Standing, tho', for some, may be a religious choice....a personal choice...or, sadly, denial and/or codependence.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
