Don't make the mistake I made of seeing some positive changes (combined with complaints from my W about my new lack of availability) and backing off from the DB in response.
Realize that as soon as you back off from the DB, she is going to run again.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
