In my sitch, H is not with an OW (at least not that I know of). The secretary was an EA and "one time thing" that they "knew immediately was a mistake". H has "had drinks" with women, but is not "what he'd call dating" (again, so he says). But, I don't know if that makes it better or worse!
He stays most of his nights in the spare room of his buddy (male) who was laid off from his job and him out with a little money for "rent". He works very long hours and then spends off time alone or carousing with his buddies, and is happy as a clam. He tries to spend quality time with S17 (which I am thankful for), but avoids me....... Will not even wish me Happy Birthday because he is afraid I will see that as an indication that he is coming home to me!!
I'm breathing!!!.......
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TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd
Will not even wish me Happy Birthday because he is afraid I will see that as an indication that he is coming home to me!! 
