You did lose me by changing your name ever so slightly. I just saw the post directed at me. Sorry for not responding sooner. No harm done on that other thread. I just sensed people ganging up on her and worried that she would stop posting. As you may also have perceived, there are people on this board who insist that their way is the "right way", and get angry when someone doesn't take their advice. My point, and I think you agree, is that each person has the right to pick and choose the advice they want to follow, if any, and reject the rest. They should not be browbeaten by others for making the choices in their own lives.
