Moved out to apartment, WAW moved back to house

[MrNiceGuy]

I finally came to the realization that (a) pillars of strength for my self-esteem even existed, and (b) that I had let most of them fall away without rebuilding - placing all the remaining pressure for my self-esteem on my wife until she collapsed too.

Her reading tells her she's been in an emotionally abusive relationship for the last few years (not physical, not drugs, not affair, not verbal). I've been emotionally withdrawn for a few years due to a self-image that trended down over time without me even realizing it. I've also noticed she's put away photos of me in the house, no longer wearing her ring, plus is enjoying weekend trips with a 'friend'.

Understanding her point of view (of the emotionally draining - if perhaps 'abusive' relationship), then she should theoretically never want to have anything to do with me ever again.

My question to the community is this: Has anybody here been in such an emotionally damaging relationship and seen it repaired over time, or should I stop with any hope I may have?