Fair observations, Puppy. Now you see, if you and me were M, we'd be having one of those unsolvable debates over what something "really" means here, wouldn't we?
Let's break it down a bit -- I'm pretty certain we're not reading things (in MWD) the same way. Here's my POV:
I'm going to refer to p. 128 in DR, under "GAL":
* stop acting as if you're a victim. Check * immediately start doing things that are out of character. Check * become more upbeat in your partner's presence. Check * appear pleased w/ yrself and yr own life. Check * pull back and wait to see if yr spouse notices. Check
Maybe I don't see the pulling back, nor the things that are out of character. I could be wrong. But "GAL" almost always refers to things you do SEPARATELY from your wife; my post to you this morning was entirely about your interactions WITH your wife.
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Nothing I did last night violated any of those precepts. As to the body language, both DB and DR repeatedly talk about observing it.
Observing, yes. Obsessing, no. I see you obsessing, but that's just my opinion.
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* Be loving in return but not overly excited or enthusiastic. Check. * Accept some invitations but not all. Check.
Again, maybe it's just me, but to ME you do sound overly enthusiastic. Maybe that's just the way you're reporting things to US, and now how you're acting around your wife.
Which invitations of hers have you turned down?
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On another thread someplace, someone (almost certainly a guy) suggested that one be a "patient predator." What does a predator do? Watches and waits and reads for signs of comfort in the prey.
True, but I'm pretty sure he does it from the hidden distance of the thicket.
I'd love to hear Melissa's thoughts on this, as she's been following you more closely than I have, admittedly.
