Letterman: Our sitch's have a lot of similar features.
My W "isn't" having an A according to her, and I want to believe it, but on the other hand I can see the points that whatdidido has made are in the realm of possibility for my W, so there you are: six of one, half-dozen of the other.
My W might be; she might not be. In either case, I have to let it go -- can't control her.
I disagree with robx on the master bedroom thing. For months I've been sleeping in my office because when we were M I slept in my office whenever I had telecommuting meetings overseas -- didn't want my alarm (which has to be LOUD) to wake W.
So in my sitch this isn't doing anything I didn't do before. Sure, I could 180 and make HER sleep in the office, but then I'd have to kick her out at 4 in the morning to do my work -- as Michele writes, would that get me closer to my goal or farther from it? I think farther.
So you're clueless, eh? Welcome to the club. We're ALL clueless here -- that's why we're DB'ing for our marriages. Because if we WEREN'T clueless we would have just gone along with the D and given them what they want and blah-dee-blah. Because "having a clue" in THEIR vocabulary means "agree with me."
So stay clueless. Keep up on DR. I keep a notebook in my pocket at all times, just to stay on top. When the phone rings and the caller i.d. says its W, first thing I do is check the notebook. If it's school hours, I answer (school calls mom first if something wrong, no matter how many times dads ask); if after hours, let the machine.
