To the mother ship: WHEN DO I GET MY HUSBAND BACK?

[Sanderika]

Hello SC,

I think it is a positive that your H isn't making any plans on filing for a D right away. The longer he waits the more opportunity you have to work on yourself and present H with a renewed SC. Become the SC your H wants to be with. Use this time to your advantage...come up with a plan. Time is on your side. I see it that he must still have reservations about it if he isn't taking action.

I am glad he is financially supportive. That is also a positive.

I, like you, am hopelessly in love with my H. I find it hard as well because I have been with him for so long. We were 15 when we started dating and have been together ever since. I also wonder if this MLC was inevitable. I wonder if H started to wonder what he missed out on because he didn't really have any batchelor days, you know...

I know as a couple we could move mountains and we have a huge very tangled history together. With the OW he has freedom again and I think that is the only draw. IMO, my H can't let go of us for many reasons...history, obligation, son, assets, and I really think he does love me even though he won't admit it.

In my sitch I work hard to maintain my appearance and PMA. I also truly believe that is the sole reason H even "bothers" with me anymore. AND after a long time I do believe that H is coming around. Will we still D? I actually think it is still a very real possibility regardless of what he said in court.

I, like you, am also grateful for this happening. If it had not, I do not know where I would be. I actually have thanked my H for leaving and giving me the kick in the a$$ I needed to change and become the "S" I am supposed to be. I can say I like myself now and I admit I hated myself before he left. He has also said I would have never changed if he had not done what he did....he's right.

SC, thank you for the kind words...You sound very much like a lady who is doing great and is amazing herself!!!

Sanderika