Dude, you are waaaaaayyyyyyyy too enmeshed with her every move. This is NOT detachment as MWD teaches it. What's next, taking her hourly blood pressure readings?
This isn't detached, it isn't dim, and it isn't going to work -- IN MY OPINION. She needs to miss you, and know that you're not "okay" with her decisions. What SHE is trying to do is the opposite: she needs to know that you're okay with everything, to relieve her guilt. In my opinion, that's what she's trying to do.
Just my observations, and I'm not trying to discourage you. I just don't want to see you set yourself up for more disappointmenet.
