I totally agree about the whole text thing....it's never taken in the context it is written...this to is the only way my H speaks to me also...it's like they don't want to hear our voice cause it might remind them how stupid they are acting...I didn't even respond to the text, I just picked up the phone...enough was enough... My D16 was so angry at her dad the night before and even saying he ruins everything, that how come he's known for 2 weeks and then now all of a sudden it's important and he wants to be there...she said he hasnt cared for the past 2 months....she's right....
Your D must be venting to her BF...my D16 has done the same thing...he knows everything but he was also on the retreat I was on last month and heard my speech but I LOVE him...he is so good for my D....our kids are hurting...they may not show it often but they are...I try not to even mention my H, at all...because the mood takes a definite dive..
OH,, a euchre tournament is a card game with a bunch of people where you can win money and prizes....it's a blast...but of course my H's OW probably found out he was going to be spending an entire evening being my partner and didn't like it so he backed out..
Oh well, his loss.....
Take care and tell your D to shave her legs...LOL!!!
I'm getting nervous about tonight....I wish I could post pics on here. but O, wait, I can text you one D...woohoo.....
T
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
I can't wait - and to hear the details of the proposal!!! Funny, I should be very cynical at this point, but I LOVE romance............even reading sappy romance novels these days. Makes me think I DO DESERVE to be treated that way!!!
We have 4-5 inches of snow this morning (after 65 degrees on Wednesday)-----hope your roads are clear...................
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
Roads clear....cold though....love my D22's boyfriend....he adores her...that's the way it should be....You would think I would be down on marriage also but there is nothing as wonderful as young love, and the look in their eyes...
I am going to look so hot today...H is going to look at me and say..."I'm stupid"..LOL!! Ok, maybe not but I'm going to make sure I loooookkkk GOOOOODDDDD!!!
As for my D22....she is beautiful....I can't wait to see her face..she has never worn a ring in her life...it will really stand out...I'm soo excited.....
I'll be back with details.....
Treese
Last edited by Treese; 02/28/0901:54 PM.
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
Gosh....my life has been on overload....here's the update....sry for the length...
Last Saturday was a wonderful day....my D22 was engaged....I got it all on video and created a DVD for them to remember for the rest of their lives...D22 was surprised....had no idea of the proposal or our being there....as much as I had not wanted to see H that day, I'm glad he was there...that is one thing he really would have regreted for the rest of his life...I even said, "aren't you glad you came"...we got there early so we stopped to eat....D16 wanted nothing to do with H so she and her boyfriend sat at another table and I sat across from H...he didn't really speak to me as he was too busy texting someone...just very rude....but I said nothing about it...proud of myself...
H and I did chat a little while we were hiding waiting for the event to happen....after it was over I played in the euchre tournament with D22's bf's sister....H backed out on me...said he needed to get back home for work....my conclusion was that he was very uncomfortable there and just didnt want to stay but whatever....he even left S11 with me to take home after he rode with him....but turned out ok because H was talking on his phone the whole way there..2 hours....my poor son didn't even get to talk to his dad....now that pissed me off....he finally gets to spend some one on one time with S11 and talks on his phone...whatever....
I drove, made it there and home, BY MYSELF, thank you very much..then no word from H from Saturday to Thursday...only Thursday cause he finally texted me wanting to know if son's phone was broke...I just said, NO....I told him if he wanted to talk to him that he could call my phone and I would let him talk to him....so he did....no mention again of taking my son anytime in the near future...his loss....H just said he's busy...WTF? What am I? I'm not sitting on my butt eating bon bons...I'm running a family....
Anyhow....so yesterday I got a phone call from my mom that my dad was in a serious accident in South Dakota where he was on business...he is a welding inspector so he was in a manseat, several stories high and it malfunctioned, he thought he was going to die so he let go and got pinned between 2 scaffolding's...he is very lucky to be alive...they flew him home last night and I am going to go spend the day with my mom to help out....I texted H to tell him and he told me to keep him posted and then began to tell me about his leg again....I never kept him updated....he obviously didn't care so I let it go...
So here I am....H is withdrawn big time from us....my dad is hurt, I'm taking care of me and my kids and I'M TIRED, I'M STRESSED, I NEED A BREAK....MY head has been pounding for days now....no relief taking anything...may have to go to a doctor...tried to find a new OB/GYN cause mine retired but no one is accepting new patients....MY PLATE IS FULL!!! REALLY!!!
That's it....but I am very happy for my D22....I'm gaining a wonderful young man as my SIL...and I have a wedding to plan, and my d16 will graduate a month before the wedding...YIKES!!!! I can do this....all by myself....with Gods strength.....
((((hugs))) Treese
Last edited by Treese; 03/07/0904:02 PM.
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
I am glad you didn't go together with your H. I said that he probably wouldn't want to stay as long as you did! I'm glad it went well, despite his worst efforts!
Is finding the doc about the same issue as months ago? Do I need to nag you daily?
I hope your dad's recovery goes smoothly. And that you get to spend some time with him!
I know you are kinda "traditional" about such things, but let D22 do a lot of the legwork in planning the wedding! She is a big girl, she can handle it! Don't let it get to be too much for you! The last thing you want to do is resent her because of the work it will be!
As far as your H, I think the less said or thought about him, the better. It's just a waste of time.
Vh....Yes, I am letting her do most of the legwork....she has already called me several time...I won't resent it a bit...I love it...my children are my world...I am cherishing every minute of this....it's wonderful...
Nag, nag, nag....LOL....and Yes.....I will find a doc...really I will...
And I'm proud of myself for driving....a year ago I would have given anything to ride in the same car as H but this time it didn't bother me....I must be letting go....
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
(((Treese))) - You have had a week!! I hope your dad is doing better and that you get to spend a lot of time with him during his recovery. My father passed away 4 years ago. At the time, I thought my life could not get any worse----dealing with the loss of a parent is horrible. Now that I think back about it all and the timing, I'm pretty sure my H was starting his relationship with OW during that time. How low is that? I'm dealing with the illness and death of my father, so while I'm dealing with that he's looking at OW???
Anyway, today is H's birthday. It's the first in almost 30 years that we have not been together. Last year was strained, but we celebrated as a family. I have been on strict no contact since 2/24. I respond to his e-mails and texts about business (kids) and nothing else. I picked D15 up from his place today to take her shopping for prom dresses and walked in and wished him a happy birthday and gave him a hug. Boy, did it surprise him. I stayed upbeat all day, and haven't really cried today. When H called to say baseball practice was over, I told him that D15 and her friend were shopping at Target, and I would just leave them there and he could pick them up. He had a chance to invite me to dinner with them, but didn't. I didn't expect him to, and was only a little disappointed. I stayed with the girls until he got there --- but he didn't know I was still there.
I guess I'm getting used to it all, finally. Maybe I'm letting go. Maybe dropping the rope................hang in there....
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
Just stopping by. Glad to see that you are doing better at dropping the rope! I am too on the whole, which is great for peace of mind, but sad in it's own way too, ya' know?
Wish I could have been your euchre partner!!!!
Take care!!
TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd
Hey Di.....I'm sorry you've lost your dad...I can't imagine...my dad is my hero....I love him so much....my H too started his affair with current OW a few months after my Hysterectomy...I'm laid up and he's out getting laid...now that's low....
Last August was the first Birthday in 30 years I didn't spend with my H either...it was tough but I made it through...so many firsts since...and knowing that he is spending them with OW was difficult at first but its so much easier now...if that is what he wants instead of his family....let him twirl around in the wind..it's not reality...
I don't talk to my H much at all anymore...he will only text if it has to do with s11...sometimes I answer, sometimes I don't..he hasn't taken my son the past 2 weekends...had him only 2 overnights in February....but it's his loss....someday he'll step back and wonder what happened to those years with his son...then again, maybe not...I'm not dwelling anymore...it takes up too much space in my head...I'm moving forward... dropping that rope....
Hang in there....I am.....Treese
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
