To the mother ship: WHEN DO I GET MY HUSBAND BACK?

[Silent Chrleader]

Wow! So much of what has been said on this thread resonates with me!!!!

BND, if you get a chance, I would love for you to stop by my thread and give me your take on my sitch.......my H does not have an OW right now (as far as I know) but is "happy as a clam" where he is at, thinking only of his job and his new life and new friends. But he has been "doing the right thing" as far as financially and with our S17, on the whole. He doesn't seem to be depressed at all, and our C and everybody says he is not coming back......I am trying not to "analyze" and have been doing better at just focusing on me really. But, sometimes I do wonder if the fact that he seems so happy and doing much better at meeting his "obligations" as far as "we" are concerned while still maintaining distance and saying he wants a D, but has no plans for D right now, is a good sign in regards to a possible reconciliation, or a bad sign in that while he is sorry for hurt caused, he is genuine in wanting a D and is determined to continue in that direction.....

Anyway, TCBTE, I am sorry for the "hijack". I completely sympathize with where you are. I met my H the day after my 17th birthday and have been together ever since, and my whole identity what wrapped up in him! I have always been a hopeless romantic, right down to reading the romance novels and everything!! I struggle daily to rebuild myself, but I know that I am stronger and a more capable woman now than I have ever been and I am not sorry for my H having walked away because it has allowed me to achieve this growth. However, I do still believe that the man I have loved for 28 years and will love until the day I die is inside him, and I the thought of never seeing him again saddens me almost beyond bearing!

So, anyway, hang in there, TCBTE and Sanderika, and continue to take it one day at a time, and remember that YOU are amazing women!!!!

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