How to deal with the OM/OW

[PortlandDad]

From the standpoint of what would make ME feel better, I totally agree with you Brandon

in the beginning when my W was in the "just friends" stage with the OM, we had a few short convos about this and that. As it started dawning on me what this scumbag was up to, I did confront him and told him to back off. His response thus far has been to completely ignore me and continue to pursue and console (and so on) my W. I would have to say that, at least in my own case, confrontation has not helped my case at all. In fact, I think it has had the opposite effect, in that he now appears to be a more sympathetic figure to my W and now they have a common enemy.

I still do fantasize about starting at the kneecaps, though...