Thanks for the vote of confidence, I was just running through other threads looking to talk and looking for support. I have had a real need to talk but everyone has been way busy.
I know you understand, I hear it in your posts a lot of the time, things voiced that i think about or have thought about. It is definitely easier being apart and not having to deal with his stuff. We don't have kids like you do, but we do work at the same place and our offices are next to each other which means daily contact. It also means putting on a face for everyone at work, and not being able to tell the truth. Although I think if anyone didn't know we were separated, they probably do now since his trip to the hospital.
He seems sincere about his recovery but he was that way the last time. I remember time, he went to AA, and I went to Alanon on the same nights. We would meet up after the meetings and share what we learned and how we felt about ourselves. I also recall seeing him happy for the first time when he would get calls from the guys in AA. (He had no social life) He seems happy again. His therapist is changing his treatment style which seems to keep H interested in staying there.
In reading pearl's thread the other day, I completely understood the question about how to rebuild trust - there is no OW but we have separated twice over his drinking. I am glad I asked for additional time to consider my readiness.
