Depression has set in.

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My kids are as ok, my daughter and I have become closer. But like you I don't want to lean on her too much. She is starting to feel caught in the middle.

H started pulling away and acting angry Sept.08. Told me he was having A Jan.4. Said he couldn't lie anymore. I Told him I wanted to work on our marriage. He said I thought you would say it was over, I need time to think. Then he moved out Feb 1. Still seeing OW. She is married but separated also. They met through work at one of his "stops" he drives truck. Said they became friends and she said all the right things. What ever those magic word are I would like to know! He says she appreciates him and loves him!

He hasn't asked for D yet, but last weekend he said he just doesn't know how it would work out. He did hint at a D, stating that he didn't want to be one of those divorced couples that talk bad about their ex's.

I do still see him when he comes to pick up the kids, and he has been back to the house claiming he needs to "do" this or that around the house.

What do you wish you did different? I too think I have been hurting myself by not being more aggressive, but you can't change the past.

It must be especially tough for you since you all work at the same place. Do you have to interact with one another? Stay strong!