I am tired of being the one to turn a blind eye to his shortcomings while he emphasizes mine. His excuse for bad behavior is that he had "checked out". I can accept that, but I have an actual documentable, physical reason for why *I* checked out, and he can't forgive me (in his heart) for that?
From an outside perspective, no that isn't very fair of him! So many WAS get into the blaming mode. It is an excuse for his behavior- it's much easier to blame you than to admit his own pain/problems. On the other side of the coin, the closer you get to his deep feelings, there is a possibility he can work through them and start a new chapter with you. That is ultimately up to him though. I hope your C can help the sitch. Yes you have stood by him and if he can't recognize you are a blessing to him(not a problem), it is HIS loss.
Yes, sometimes C's don't help (my C didn't help my M) but it really depends on the C. If it seems like she is focusing on his anger a lot, maybe it isn't best to continue
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Last night when he was explaining why I wasn't invited to go out with him tonight to see the band, he said that he hasn't gotten to go out with the guys in a long time and he *needs* to be able to go out with the guys. And since he still doesn't know what is happening with him and I, he wasn't prepared to have me hang out with him and his friends. Maybe *I* need to find someone more mature who doesn't think they "need" to go to bars with their buddies.
This is really lame of him!! What is he talking about? I thought he lived separately from you and plans his daily schedule on his own. The whole explanation part sounds like he's in high school or something. Don't blame yourself, you've been a saint to him(hugs)
DBer since 2003 D - 3/24/09 GAL and DBing for myself
