Beyond Surviving- Living Life Again

[Loving_Life]

Trixi thanks for your post! No reason to feel bad about the pics idea- I thought it was good too. It certainly did help me with my own GAL, regardless of how he responded. My stbx is grasping at straws and my L thinks it's beyond ridiculous too. And yes, this episode is making it very easy for me to let go of him and frankly now I feel thankful I am no longer with him. I used to give him the benefit of the doubt - now I can see through him. Stbx has rewritten history so that everything is my fault. On the phone he was trying to manipulate me by saying things like he "cared about our friendship" and "so could I just consider his maintenace request then- he's even willing to reduce his monthly payment request and that would be a 'great deal' for me. He 'spent 4 careful hours putting this together, can I please consider his time and effort?" What a LOAD of $(#%*#. I don't even know if I'm talking to him on the phone again! The guy needs to get a job instead of trying to leech money I don't have out of me. My L keeps asking me why isn't he looking for a FT job? She doesn't understand it either. Stbx has a part-time job, but refuses to get a FT(thinks music biz will work out)- he's college-educated and has had FT jobs before. Stbx is trying to keep the house, but he's having problems refinancing. At least he has made all the payments so far. My L thinks there's no way his maintenance req will happen, but it is a useless waste of time and money for both of us right now.