Oh, I do enjoy the interaction. I definitely enjoy being with him and lately it's been pretty wonderful because he is flirting now and being affectionate and it feels sincere not "I'm really just horny....hope you are too."
Originally Posted By: brandnewday
Each time you get together and it is a positive experience you will leave him with more things to think about.
That is very valuable advice.....I hadn't thought of it that clearly. This is why I hang out here! My DB coach and my therapist agree that H does have MLC traits but both believe this is more disillusionment in his marriage and the life he wanted or thought he was going to have at 34. So, let me get working on my list of things to come home too.
Last night, my S and I went to watch a tennis match. (I took up tennis as part of my GAL efforts, love it.) After the match he called and asked if we wanted to come over so he could see S. When we got there, H was sort of mellow, not a bad mood but def. mellow, maybe even melancholy. He says to S "You want to hang out with Daddy? Good, tell Mommy to take her jacket off and relax. She doesn't have anywhere better to be anyways." So S, in his sweet little voice told Mommy to take her coat off and helped me. We hung out for a while and once again he started with the flirting. When we did leave, he loaded our S into his car seat, gave me a hug. A big one. I said "This was all supposed to happen Baby. I'm ok, S is doing great. This is what was supposed to happen. I've benefited from all of this. And there's no angry here." He said something, I didn't quit hear it and then he said "I'm not sure what I want anymore." So I hope that's a good thing. He said "Bye Lovie, I'll see you tomorrow." And I got in the car and left with S.
