If your WAS would agree...

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No we do not have money for him to have a place. He will be living 24/7 in 14x7 berthing that he will share with another guy. At least he does get the bottom bunk. I don't imagine it will be anytime at all until some lonely woman in a bar takes him home to live with her.

Yes I liked ot's response too, however I never know what to say at the time and usually get it wrong.

No matter... I stopped in the bar to have my H buy me a drink last night. C and I had talked about this and she thought it was a good chance for me to catch him being good or a good chance for me to maybe get the wake up call I need to do what I need to do.. He was out of town all day and I had a gnawing feeling that he would go to happy hour before coming home. To my pleasant surprise bfh's car was not in the parking lot so I thought I was going to catch him being good. WRONG! There she was sitting right next to him at the bar. If nothing else the look on her face was worth the price of admission. She immediately gathered all her things and scurried away like a rat in the garbage. I did pretty good keeping my cool for the most part. I could have been a little less sarcastic maybe, BUT I also could have been a LOT more so!!! What I rally wanted to do was show my butt and call her (and him) out in front of all their co-workers. But I didn't, I should get some credit for that.

He leaves tomorrow for 7 weeks. Any weekends that he comes home I plan to have a friend to go visit.

I know I have made a horrible mess of db'ing. For that I am sorry, but I can not continue to pretend and be invisible.