This may ending being long, but what the heck..I don't post much any more and I wanted to get this out while it was fresh.
Although it probably won't be verbatim....had a pretty interesting conversation with my wife last night....let's call it the most recent "reminder talk of where this is all headed".
Think I handled myself very well, and the funny thing is...especially after spinning a bit about Valentine's Day, and how long this limbo has gone on...last night and this morning I am chuckling to myself about all this. It is going to be a beautiful, sunny 60* day...I am taking a half day from work...and I am thoroughly enjoying my "why the f**k should I even sweat it any more" attitude.
First...on average, the reminders come along about every 2 months..last one was at the end of last year, so I knew I was due.
Through all of this, I have told her I do not need the reminders, and she has maintained that the reason she allows us to be so close, have fun and enjoy ourselves so much...is because of that...I tell her I know what's coming, and she trusts that I get it.
She doesn't bring it up much, neither do I...and we live our lives 98% of the time as a happily married couple....including ML, although that has slowed a bit lately. That usually happens prior to the reminders.
I'm pretty sure if I looked for it...there is a pretty consistent pattern going on for the last 8 or 10 months.
Last night was my late night...wife and her friend were at the house chatting and having a drink. As so often happens..(male)friends of the friend tend to find her and follow along...my wife and I call them her "posse"...one or two, one again off again boyfriends and a couple young guys that tagged along.
Wife sent me a text to warn me..."just wanted to let you know, friend's posse found her...we are just hanging out having some beers"....not ecstatic about the idea, but I know a couple of the guys, so it really was not a big deal.
When I got home, I went to the bedroom to change and wife followed me in...came up to me and put her arms around me and asked if I was mad....said she didn't want me to think there was anything "funny" going on with all these guys in the house...friend asked if it was OK if they came over and she didn't want to be rude.
I laughed and said...wife..at this point in time, you would need your head examined if you were still trying to hide something like that from me...and in the grand scheme of things, with all that we have been through and where we are headed...I'm not so sure it would matter an awful lot to me.
So...maybe I was slightly annoyed at coming home to find my wife, her friend and 4 dudes in the house...LOL.
She looked at me with a little, hurt puppy dog look....I laughed it off..told her to be quiet and let's go have a beer.
So, we all drank some beers...laughed, talked and actually had a pretty good night. One of the guys I had never met was a car nut so we talked cars...wife's friend did her usual flirting around the room, which usually ends with me and her telling me how much she loves me...thinks I'm sexy...blah, blah, blah. Obviously she has no idea what I really think of her.
They were all gone by 10:30 - 11 and my wife and sat and talked in the kitchen while we finished our last beer.
Let's call this part 1....this is getting longer than I thought it would.
