Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
W abruptly stopped texting/calling me late Thursday, and ignored me when I asked her to send D8's shoes. D8 came in tonight and said she is mad at me about something.
My night out was very good! We were there from 6:30-9:30, and bowled 3 games. I won all of them! *smug* But it was a really good time!
Kids and I have sports, and we are going to walk down to the river, and sail S6's boat.
Just to make this even weirder - W went on a "date" Thursday with OM - first one in a really long time. They just went to a Chinese place around the corner, and then came back - still the weirdest deal with them.
I thought about an ultimatum email, etc, but that just still feels like posturing to me.
So, I'm thinking of just doing this - just texting or calling her and asking her why she didn't answer when S6 asked if we were getting back together. What's the worst she can say? That she was just surprised? Or the best case - and she's thinking about it. I don't really care either way...
Then I'll know, and I can put this stupidity behind me!
So, I'm thinking of just doing this - just texting or calling her and asking her why she didn't answer when S6 asked if we were getting back together. What's the worst she can say? That she was just surprised? Or the best case - and she's thinking about it. I don't really care either way...
Oh I don't know JD - this sounds like an emotional response, not strategy. Better rethink this first.
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Then I'll know, and I can put this stupidity behind me!
Yes, it's all stupid. She's living on Stupid Planet right now and may actually be thinking of moving - but if you push her too soon she'll stay there for who knows how much longer.
Don't let impatience get the best of you after you've come so far!
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
Keep your emotions in check buddy. You may be making progress. Baby steps. Its been a long time for you. But don't quit now. The date was nothing more than dinner.
Look at the fact she was in the house with you. Thats huge. Just keep working it like you have been. Maybe it takes 5 years. But if 5 years is what you lost and you gain back a lifetime of what you want, isn't it worth it?
Stay calm friend. You have been seeking Gods will. You have been DBing for a long time. Don't quit now.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Hmm, asking her what's up is not staying the course of the past month. I would vote for letting it go. I know how much you just want to know what's going on, but that approach isn't going to get you the answers you seek.
Hang tight!
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
Just don't go there mate. As everyone else says, it's an emotional response.
When I sent txt to W about MIL, I felt like I wanted to send another one as that one was not replied to. Then I thought about it and asked myself why and what would it achieve?. Answer...nothing. It was me feeling sorry for myself.
Stick with the programme.
Oh an sorry I missed you in the alt...was busy gaming
Silver, I guess it sort of was an emotional response, but, I have been doing so well, and had really started to move past things emotionally, and felt like my life was filling up with good - when she started acting like this all of a sudden - I was NOT happy and overjoyed that she might come back. I was angry at first - that she would treat me so badly for so long, and then I was like "Ugh, man, this will suck, trying to rebuild trust, going to counseling". A lame response considering that she hadn't even given any positive signs really.
Also, I have had a bad habit in the past of reading positive signs into things, and I hate that, and refuse to allow myself to do it anymore. I do NOT EVER temperature take, but I would take a smile and ride that for two weeks as a sure sign things were better. Now, I'm past all that crap, and I just want to get on with life.
