Have a wonderful weekend. You have grown and I think now have found out how powerful taking a strong stance and approach works in these situations. Can you imagine if you were still hanging in there and hoping that by being nice and sweet to him would turn him around and where you would be?
And yet, even if one were to read thru her entire thread(s), show me where she has really been "mean" or nasty?
This is a critical concept to grasp, and we're having this same discussion on another thread: there's a difference between "nice" and being a "Mr. Nice Guy"(/Girl).
There's a difference between being friend-LY, without trying to remain their BEST FRIEND.
There's a difference between taking a strong, principled stance and being a DIKK/B*TCH.
There's a difference between keeping the door open a crack, so long as certain non-negotiable boundaries are maintained, and flinging the door wide open and constantly peeking thru it to see if your wayward spouse is on the other side, still there, looking back at you, and wondering what they're thinking all the time!
Pearl HAS been a good, even "nice" person toward her boyfriend. But she's hasn't been a "Ms. Nice Gal." BIG difference.
