Mrs. H, What a classy lady! Life after divorce takes on a whole new meaning once the ink has dried on the dotted line. Now, you will begin to see the light of day and come to realize that the huge weight you've been carrying around for such a long time will begin to lift a bit. You can now focus on your schooling, boys and the possiblity of moving at some point.
Mrs. H, never for one minute doubt that you didn't try to save your marriage. You did everything humanly possible to save it. Your xh will someday regret what he's done and he's going to find that the road paved in gold bricks to Oz will eventually tarnish and that fun life he thinks he's got and will have will be nothing more than a routine and pain in the rear.
You, on the other hand, will soar. You will see the world in a whole new light. Doors will open up to you and you will begin to smile once again and believe me, people will be there to assist you any way that they can. So, Mrs. H, spread your wings and fly. You are a success in your own right.
Hugs to you and your boys. Spring is right around the corner, new life, new beginnings.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
