Still, I like your plan about confronting her with the 2nd A. No anger is important, or it's all for nothing.
Just a thought, giving her that option, (outing it herself or else you will,) might give her MLC alien the opportunity to view that as a "threat." Just one more thing for her to say "he's a jerk b/c he said..."
Unfortunately, I don't have experience with outing an A, (I wish I did,) but...
If you out the second A, she's going to be mad, but deep down, she'll know you're acting from truth. It's hard to hold that grudge later.
"Making" her do it herself "or else you will," might feel to her like manipulation, and give her something to hold against you. That'd be a trust issue later. Assuming she does it.
If you give her an ultimatum, then out her anyway, it seems like that's something she WILL hold against you later, justified or not.
I'm not being critical here, more kind of thinking out loud.
Just something from the far side of D from a guy who didn't out the A but wishes he had.
Best,
Punkt.
These are my friends now!
But someday baby... You ain't worry my life anymore
Take away, take away what I don't need, save the good part please. Fade away, fade away.
