I still get sad, but I do not wallow in self-pity. I am thinking that sadness is okay given my circumstances, but most of the time I am happy and content in the Lord and his blessings.
StrongWife,
The "ah-ha" moment for me came when I finally realized that I relied almost 100% on my W's view of me to determine my self-worth. So, when our marriage went into the pooper....my self-image went with it. When I rightly turned to God for that role, several things happened:
I got a true picture of who I was in the eyes of the Lord
I was able to directly act on God's plan for my future unfiltered by my w's thoughts and ideas
It free'd up my wife from a burden she never should have had to carry
Our marital growth could begin anew
My W told me after our restoration...."You know, FaithfulH....on judgement day, we won't stand together before our Lord....we are called to stand individually". I agree with her and believe only AFTER we get right with God individually can we begin the work of restoring our marriages.
You have been doing this work for awhile, so.....this may be for others more than you, StrongWife.....
FH--
I am still getting the truth darts of a lot of what you said here, so even for those of us who have been working at ourselves for a while, this is a good reminder.
I had my relate group tonight for church and we were talking about Matt. 5:38-48 and the characteristics of a Christian. Our group leader brought up about how we are accountable to God for our actions and he does not need us to tell about what others did or did not do to us. He already knows. I mentioned what you said about being the only one in front of God for judgement day. He really liked that one.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
