Thank you! Somehow, I knew you would love it, as you admonished me for my last change that still defined me as who I was through someone else. Now, I seek to only define myself by God's standards and no one else's. His standards are all the truly matter and I am so very grateful that God loved me enough when I did not love myself to help pull me out of the pit I was in. I still get sad, but I do not wallow in self-pity. I am thinking that sadness is okay given my circumstances, but most of the time I am happy and content in the Lord and his blessings. When I start to feel down, I think of all I have been given by Him and it lifts my heart.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Hi Hon, I like HON better, he he!! HON is YOU for me. Anyway, I am glad you keep on improving and finding yourself. Things will turn out to be exactly as you want them to. I still remember clearly your dream about you renewing your commitement to each other (sp?). Love K
{{{{Hon}}}}
During my fast in January, God brought that dream back to the forefront of my mind over and over again. The details are still as real as when it was first given to me last summer and I am standing on Faith that God will bring it to fruition. I also had several dreams of DH asking me if he could come home as we were standing on the pier at homecoming. Was it this homecoming or a future one? Only God knows the answer to that one, but I will wait on the Lord and his timing.
Enjoy your special day, my dear!!
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Thanks! When Greek said it to me in an email it clicked in my heart and I rushed in here to change my name, knowing that i had finally found the definition of who I am in the eyes of God.
I have been reading along and I hope you seriously consider the series i told you about. I think it may be the breakthrough you are looking for.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
I still get sad, but I do not wallow in self-pity. I am thinking that sadness is okay given my circumstances, but most of the time I am happy and content in the Lord and his blessings.
StrongWife,
The "ah-ha" moment for me came when I finally realized that I relied almost 100% on my W's view of me to determine my self-worth. So, when our marriage went into the pooper....my self-image went with it. When I rightly turned to God for that role, several things happened:
I got a true picture of who I was in the eyes of the Lord
I was able to directly act on God's plan for my future unfiltered by my w's thoughts and ideas
It free'd up my wife from a burden she never should have had to carry
Our marital growth could begin anew
My W told me after our restoration...."You know, FaithfulH....on judgement day, we won't stand together before our Lord....we are called to stand individually". I agree with her and believe only AFTER we get right with God individually can we begin the work of restoring our marriages.
You have been doing this work for awhile, so.....this may be for others more than you, StrongWife.....
Praising God Daily, Remaining "FaithfulH" Me: 62 W: 62 D:33 S:30 & 31 Married: 40 Years BD: Sep 2006 Piecing: May 2007 2nd BD: May 2014 Working On It: Today
I am getting myself emotionally and spiritually healthy in the meantime. If I do not, I will not be ready to tackle the difficult road of piecing and reconciliation when the time comes.
This is exactly what every LBS needs to do. You are definitely on the right path, and you still have further to go, but you are getting closer and closer with every step.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
WOW! Great name! Again. Of course I'm also very fond of "Hon" !
Thank you for the virtual chicken soup on my thread, it made my mouth water and gave me an idea. I'm going to make it tomorrow!
(((Hugs)))
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
I still get sad, but I do not wallow in self-pity. I am thinking that sadness is okay given my circumstances, but most of the time I am happy and content in the Lord and his blessings.
StrongWife,
The "ah-ha" moment for me came when I finally realized that I relied almost 100% on my W's view of me to determine my self-worth. So, when our marriage went into the pooper....my self-image went with it. When I rightly turned to God for that role, several things happened:
I got a true picture of who I was in the eyes of the Lord
I was able to directly act on God's plan for my future unfiltered by my w's thoughts and ideas
It free'd up my wife from a burden she never should have had to carry
Our marital growth could begin anew
My W told me after our restoration...."You know, FaithfulH....on judgement day, we won't stand together before our Lord....we are called to stand individually". I agree with her and believe only AFTER we get right with God individually can we begin the work of restoring our marriages.
You have been doing this work for awhile, so.....this may be for others more than you, StrongWife.....
FH--
I am still getting the truth darts of a lot of what you said here, so even for those of us who have been working at ourselves for a while, this is a good reminder.
I had my relate group tonight for church and we were talking about Matt. 5:38-48 and the characteristics of a Christian. Our group leader brought up about how we are accountable to God for our actions and he does not need us to tell about what others did or did not do to us. He already knows. I mentioned what you said about being the only one in front of God for judgement day. He really liked that one.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
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